February 20, 2023: Donor Journey begins

Monday, February 20, 2023 · by kathy howe
I arrived at the Bass Center outpatient clinic this morning for the first set of my “work up” tests to be Sam’s stem cell donor. Claudia, our favorite badging in service provider said first thing, “did Sam already come in? Did I miss him?”  
I got to share with her my news that I get to be Sam’s donor so will have a bunch of appointments myself. 
I got my own bracelet, confirmed my name & date of birth, and then waited in the lobby as we always do. A phlebotomist called my name and walked with me to get my blood drawn.  She was very skilled: no pain and very efficient. I think there were 10 vials but it didn’t seem like that at all.
I have very small veins so I am always wary of blood draws: I’ve had too many people miss! 😣 
i got my own golden ticket — their signal that I can move on to the next step (Sam gets these every visit) and then met up with Sam’s transplant nurse practitioner, Lauren (turns out there are 2 Laurens (stoooppp making it possessive!!!!  There are TWO of them so it is PLURAL — ridiculous auto check! )  who are teamed with our transplant doctor — so they refer to them as “The Laurens.”
She walked me to my other 2 appointments as both were on the adult side and Stanford hospitals are labyrinthian: apheresis to check my veins and x-ray to check my chest/abdomen.
I found out once again that I have tiny veins. This is not news but it does complicate the apheresis process: they need (ideally) 2 or more good veins in each arm as my blood will go out one arm, into a machine, the stem cells will be removed, and the remaining blood will go back into my other arm.
There is another option where they put a catheter with 2 lumens, one for outgoing blood and one for incoming, into my neck. This involves a small surgical procedure so is less ideal.
Nurse Y came over to check my veins: she is known to be a goddess of finding veins and making this process work and she said she thinks she can do it. She even talked to Lauren about her schedule and our schedule so she could try to be in the clinic when I am there!  Wow. Kindness follows us once again.  #FULeukemia 
I then got chest x-ray filled out about 70 questions asking all kinds of medical history to make sure I won’t give any infection or other medical issue to Sam.  Now off to meet with Dr. Klein, Sam’s transplant doctor, to sign all the consents. It’s a 90 minute meeting so you can tell there will be a lot of information.
Zack has a holiday today and is hanging out with his oldest cousin Andrew for a few hours ❤️❤️❤️❤️
#FULeukemia
#TeamSam
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33 comments

dave lilly · Monday, February 20, 2023
Love you guys ❤️
kathy howe · Monday, February 20, 2023
❤️
J'Ann Schoonmaker Allen · Monday, February 20, 2023
Ah, Kathy, I love you and sending much love to Sam, John and Zack. BTW: I too have THOSE veins. So very annoying!! Hugs from all of us
kathy howe · Monday, February 20, 2023
#smallveinsisters!

Love you too J’ann! ❤️
Zahra K · Monday, February 20, 2023
Amazing that you are able to be a donor for Sam - wishing all of you a successful transplant and easy days through the process… ❤️
kathy howe · Monday, February 20, 2023
Thank you Zahra! ❤️
David Hornik · Monday, February 20, 2023
Dream Cancer Fighting Team! ❤️
Paulo Correia · Monday, February 20, 2023
As someone with "difficult veins", I feel your pain. That said, *if* you have to do the neck procedure, get someone to take photos of Dracula-Franken-Kathy! ;) Yes, I'm morbid, but you know, it helps!
kathy howe · Monday, February 20, 2023
😂😂
Dana Lilly · Monday, February 20, 2023
Tiny veins. Big heart ❤️. Hugs to everyone 🥰
Suchi Sairam · Monday, February 20, 2023
Lots of love, hugs and vein power!!!! ❤️
Gowri G · Monday, February 20, 2023
Sending ❤️
Claudia Hung · Monday, February 20, 2023
Thinking of you and your amazingness, Howe. I’m with you on the tiny veins. And whoever is in charge of autocorrect should be fired. Suck it leukemia. You got this. 💪❤️
Heather Sahami · Monday, February 20, 2023
But was it at least a plural possessive? 😘 Love you and thinking of everyone always.
kathy howe · Monday, February 20, 2023
😂😂
Andrew Korb · Monday, February 20, 2023
Tiny veins! The worst! Surely there's a latin name for this condition! (If there isn't, there should be.) Lots of love to you all!
Blake Korb · Monday, February 20, 2023
You are so amazing, Kathy <3
Ellen Levy · Monday, February 20, 2023
Go Kathy go!
Elizabeth Lilly · Monday, February 20, 2023
Awesome mama!! Lots of love and positive prayers coming your way!
Jessica White · Monday, February 20, 2023
best. mom. ever.
Palon Shuster · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
Mama who is giving life twice!
Sean White · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
Golden ticket! Well done.
Cindy McLaughlin · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
Go mama-Kathy! Sending a big-veined hug your way.
Jennifer White · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
You are officially Supermom, now! With tiny but powerful veins 😜
kathy howe · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
I forgot to mention: I have very large “beautiful” veins in my lower arms — *both* of them — just not in my elbows 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️?!? How is That?!?!?
Bryan Rollins · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
It's not the size of the vein it's the heart pumping everything through them. Or something like that?
Exciting first steps. I met a lot of stem cell donors during my bike tours around Texas to promote organ, tissue, blood, stem cell donation. Good luck!
Liz O'Donoghue · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
It begins indeed. We so appreciate hearing all the details and updates. I also have small veins so I hear ya on all that! Sending lots of love to you all -
Anabel Pearson · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
Good luck with the BMT process! You take motherhood to another dimension ! You definitely inspire me! Hope you Relax and enjoy the ride!
Ambika Natarajan · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
You all are an INSPIRATION. Wishing the very best.
Michelle Stewart · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
I love to hear how loved and cared for you are! <3
joelle kaufman · Tuesday, February 21, 2023
Go Kathy! I hope the process is as comfortable as possible. It's incredible that you can do this and Sam can be healthy.
Neel Sarkar · Wednesday, February 22, 2023
We know you'd never let tiny veins get in the way, Kathy! Hope everything goes as smoothly as possible.
anna tamis · Thursday, March 2, 2023
Kathy! You are amazing. Sending so many hugs.